Maybe you’re reading this at home. Maybe on the subway. Maybe in a coffee shop. You’ve got your own choices in front of you, you’ve got your own dreams, you’ve got your own beliefs and driving forces. But we have one thing in common.
We all start our day the same: standing in front of our closets (consciously or subconsciously) asking, “What am I going to wear today?” And depending on the answer, those nine syllables can either make us walk a little taller, or they can stir up a mess of emotions + negative self talk.
I first found myself intrigued with style once I began to realize that my relationship to clothes pointed to something deeper.
Lots of people say they don’t know how to dress themselves. That’s an interesting conundrum, and a confounding one. As human beings we’re amazing creatures, natural problem-solvers who are adapted especially well to learning. So what prevents us from this?
The usual culprit is fear, in many forms–of the unknown, of putting oneself out there, of being judged. Such negative thoughts often become so loud that they drown the fun out of our natural curiosity.
Making excuses and letting fear rule our style stop us from expressing our true selves and what we could look like at our best. We get in the way of our own potential instead of reveling in it.
Negative thought loops are self-perpetuating. If we don’t like what we see in the mirror, we either ignore it or overcompensate for it. This causes a disconnect between who we are (smart, sophisticated, beautiful, and wonderful) and how we appear (bland, sloppy, miserable).
By changing your style, you’re forced to change the way you perceive yourself. And if you can see yourself differently, you can start to feel differently. If you put on clothes that actually flatter your figure, you suddenly may not feel as badly about your body anymore.
And when the negative body feelings change–the negative thoughts change. When you can think positively about one aspect of yourself, it becomes easier to believe in yourself in lots of different contexts. Seeing to feeling to thinking to believing: These are the four stages of changing your style. -Stacy London, The Truth About Style
Kind of exciting, right?
If you change what you see, you begin to perceive yourself differently.
What do you think? Do you see style as a way to play with possibility? Do you think it could even go so far as to change your life?