I’m not quite sure what it is about shopping that makes me feel happy, but it really does. That is, until I get home and see how much stuff I already have and realize how much money I’ve spent.
This past year I’ve worked really hard on curbing my spending and it’s really helped to find other ways to get that high shopping gives me.
In the first part of 2014, it was training for a half-marathon and being in a new relationship. Over the summer, after my half-marathon dream was sidelined by an injury, it was exploring Philadelphia with my boyfriend and going for long bike rides. The fall brought road trips and finally deciding to go back to school to pursue my dream of being a teacher. The winter was hard. Shopping for the holidays had me in and out of stores and the shopping bug was making tiny little bites. That, combined with wanting an impressive winter capsule, made resisting really hard but by that point in my journey my defenses were pretty strong and I was finding that shopping wasn’t very fulfilling for me anymore. I’d like to say I steered clear of all shopping, but that’s just not the case. I gave in, but in a moderate amount that made sense for my budget.
I had a crazy beginning to my New Year and, a few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. What’s the first thing I did? Schedule a shopping date with my best friend. Second thing? Head to DSW and buy these cute little sneakers. Needed? Eh. Wanted? Ohhhh yeah.
Fortunately, I quickly remembered that not only is buying things not going to make me happy in the long run, it’s going to make my wallet even more unhappy. I decided that I’m not going to let this break up or anything else control my happiness. Here’s what I’m doing instead
- I rejoined the gym near my work. The one that I pay a ridiculous amount for but I love it and I actually go so it’s worth it. I’ve started going at lunchtime which enables me to come back to my desk refreshed.
- I made a bunch of plans with a bunch of people. Your friends want to be there for you, so let them.
- I completed a craft and gift for a friend. I got out of my own head for a while and worked on a gift for a friend who is always just a text away
- I got back into yoga. A studio opened up around the corner from me at the perfect time and I’m throwing myself back into an activity I’ve always loved.
- I’m keeping an open mind. Who knows what will happen? Maybe I’ll be single for a while, finally go on that cruise I’ve been dreaming of, or make some new girlfriends. For now, I’m keeping an open mind and welcoming new experiences into my life.
I’d love to hear what you do to find happiness in your life (without resorting to shopping)!
Sweater: JCrew Factory (similar)
Skirt: Limited, really old (similar)
Shoes: Cole Haan (similar)
Earrings: White Goods Company