Here’s the scene.
I walk into a store. Pick up an armful of things I like. And head back to the dressing rooms.
Thirty minutes later, I’m freaking out + can’t make a decision to save my life.
Here’s what’s happening. My brain is clogged with thoughts like “Nothing fits” and “I don’t know what to do.” These are dead end thoughts. They don’t do anything to help clarify the problem or find a solution.
I need to reframe these dead end thoughts into a question. Then I can answer them (with a yes or no), make a decision, and move on.
Here’s how it’s done.
“Nothing fits me.”
(1) Tough love first: Using gross over exaggerations isn’t going to fix anything. And what kind of self talk usually comes after a statement like that? Down-on-your-body trash talk, that’s what. Refuse it.
Remember, that kind of negativity is poison — and totally within your control. The things you tell yourself can either feed insecurities or starve them. Choose to starve the little bastards.
(2) Realize that we are all in the same boat. No woman magically fits into everything she tries on. Not even Beyonce. (Love you, Bey!)
(3) Here’s the solution. (And the reason that Beyonce looks amazing in everything she wears.) Size up so the garment fits your widest part, and then take it to a tailor. She can then take it in for you + make it fit like a dream.
“But that costs money.”
Add $20 to the garment price.
Yes or no, would you pay that price for it if that was the price on the tag?
If your answer is no, don’t buy it and keep looking.
Side note. $20 is my rule of thumb. Tailoring may be a little more or a little less than that depending on what you need to have done. If you want to get a more accurate number, research tailors around you + see what they charge for some typical alterations.
“But that will take time.”
Yep. Taking things to get tailored takes time.
Try factoring that time into your shopping trip. Can you just swing by a tailor after you leave the store?
Or look at your calendar real quick. Yes or no, is there a day this week that you can take 30 minutes and go to the tailor?
If the answer is no, don’t buy it. Keep looking.
“I’ve tried on all these clothes, and now I’m feeling overwhelmed. Which ones do I get?!”
I’ve been there … too many times.
I used to get anxious in the dressing room because I didn’t have a plan or a budget — and I felt guilty about spending money. Typically I’d get so anxious that I’d just leave the store with nothing.
Let’s say it together: MASSIVE TIME WASTE.
In fact, that wasted time was what compelled me to start living with a capsule wardrobe + share it with you.
Now I fill out my wardrobe planner before I ever set foot in the store. I’m happy to report that thanks to that little bit of preparation, I haven’t felt that anxiety. Get yo’self one here.
If you’re reading this in the dressing room though, that’s not going to help much. Here are some simple questions to help you make a quick, good decision.
- Name 2-3 outfits you can make with this piece.
- Name 2-3 occasions / places where you’d wear this piece.
- Would you reach for this piece tomorrow when you’re getting dressed?
What kinds of obstacles do you face in the dressing room? Ask away in the comments — and I’ll try to answer your questions as best I can.
Do you have any tips on making quick, smart decisions in the dressing room? Share away — I want to know your secrets! :)