This post is sponsored by The Dreslyn, a Los Angeles-based online specialty store of thoughtfully selected and timeless designer apparel.
I discovered The Dreslyn last year and felt immediately drawn to their curated aesthetic. They carry versatile investment pieces from some of my favorite designers, like St. Agni, Rachel Comey, and Ozma of California. Read other entries in their Self-Love series here.
Now onto the post…
I’m getting back in the groove after a wonderful weekend spent with old friends in Austin. These last few weeks of winter I’ve felt stuck and anxious, but over the weekend with our friends, I started to feel that old energy melt away. A new season is right around the corner, and I’m thankful for the healing power of relationships.
I’ve been reflecting on relationships lately — especially the cyclical connection between loving others and loving ourselves.
There’s been buzz around the term self-love for years, but it’s really been just this last year that I’ve come to understand it’s true essence in my life.
Rather than confusing self-love with spending money or indulging lavishly, I see it as something much more internal. Self-love is a state of mind — a habit of appreciating the full scope of humanity that resides within.
Beyond that, self-love is actually a vital component of loving others. Loving ourselves and loving others are like a yin and yang pair — two sides of the same coin. Without love for others, we cannot fully love ourselves. Without love for ourselves, we cannot fully love others. But together, they form a complete circle.
The more I dwell in this circle, the more sure of myself I feel. The more I practice self-love, the more I know what I think, need, and want — and the more I’m able to show up authentically for others. And for a recovering people-pleaser like myself, this is life changing.
So, today, I wanted to explore more of this idea through a simple, short series of questions. As you read, consider how you might answer these questions.
Ready? Let’s jump in.
Confidence is: breathing deeply.
Identity is: ever changing.
I am from: a small town in the central plains of Texas.
The thing I love most about myself is: my creative mind.
The thing I love most in others is: sincerity.
I need: music.
I relax by: taking walks, cuddling my dog, having a cup of green tea.
I’m inspired by: stone sculptures, currently. The works of Jean Arp and Henry Moore. The way the shadow, light, and stone compliment each other fascinates me.
I can’t live without: curiosity.
Influence is: something to regularly reflect upon and ask, “Whose influence am I under? Do I want to be under their influence?”
A book that changed my perspective is: The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander.
I’m currently listening to: Maggie Rogers.
I’m currently watching: old seasons of SNL.
I’m excited by: the future of sustainability, especially in fashion.
I trust: my intuition.
I’m impressed by: humankind’s capacity to adapt and change.
I feel complete when: I practice gratitude.
I aspire to: live without resistance.
I believe in: humanity.
I’m working on: getting to know my neighbors.
I practice self love by:
- getting up and taking a break when I feel myself getting stressed or tense
- asking for help when I need it
- feeling my feelings instead of squelching them or numbing out
- breathing deeply for one minute
- saying no to a commitment that will stretch me thin
- taking the time to ask myself what I need
- saying what I think, instead of trying to give the “right” answer
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Top by Toteme (gifted)
Earrings by Rachel Comey (gifted)
Shoes by Intentionally Blank (gifted)
Vintage Bag (similar)
Vintage Scarf (similar)
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And there you have it!
Again, I’m so grateful to The Dreslyn for sponsoring this post — it’s a delight to work with a thoughtful company that’s interested in exploring meaningful topics like this.
Now it’s your turn! What does self-love look like for you? Pick a handful of the prompts above and share your answers in the comments below. If you need a starting point, my two favorite prompts are:
The thing I love most about myself is:
The thing I love most in others: