Hi! Nice to see you again after that super quick break. :)
Cool outfit, huh? Comfortable. Simple. Practical. Check.
Now, allow me to launch into a blog post completely unrelated to this outfit.
I’m going to level with you: I’ve been in an emotional + sensitive state lately. I know I’ve mentioned it here and there, but whew I’m feelin’ it right now. I’m usually a sensitive person, but it’s in overdrive this week.
Sometimes, it can be really hard to let myself feel what I’m feeling. I’ve spent the past couple of days in resistance, repeating I’m fine, I’m fine to myself while trying to push down the giant lump in my throat.
The thing is, I know better. I know that most of the pain comes from my resistance, not my circumstances. I know things are better when I just soften and melt into what I’m feeling. But sometimes, like the past few days, I’ve just felt beyond the reach of that pep-talk.
(It’s really hard for me to leave that sentence there, without finishing it on a positive note.)
Anyway, bringing it back to Unfancy — all these feelings make me want to shop. Yep. They do. The old retail therapy habit still rears it’s head every now and then. I don’t like how vulnerable I feel right now, so I want to shop to cope, to stave off those feelings, to distract myself. My insides are like, can we just have some instant gratification, please?
I bring all this up because I often talk about the benefits of shopping less and shopping mindfully, but I rarely talk about the times the emotional shopping bug hits. And maybe it’s just good for you to know that it still hits, even after years of practicing mindfulness.
Maybe you feel the same way right now, and it helps to know you’re not alone. Maybe you’ve been there before and you have some words of wisdom to share.
All I know is this: When I bring these feelings into this blog space and share it with you guys, I sense some of that residual “How Fascinating!” energy and it makes it seem a little less like a problem and more like a chance to learn something.
So I thought I’d use this as an opportunity to open up a conversation.
What do you do when you’re feeling extra sensitive + vulnerable to life? Do you usually resist at first? Do you lean into it? What helps you get through it in a healthy way? And … you knew I was going to ask: what do you do when you feel like shopping to cope or distract yourself?
Photo Credit: Katie Jameson
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